Happy Holidays!

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December has arrived and with it a flurry of twinkling lights, snow storms and hot chocolate! I’m getting into the festive spirit this weekend with Girl Gift Gather and one of my favorite bloggers, Erin Boyle of Reading My Tea Leaves. Together, we’ll spend Saturday afternoon drinking a warming Winter punch, eating homemade snacks and crafting beeswax tapers, mulling spices and decorative swags! Tickets are one sale here. I really hope some of you will be able to join…

Happy Holidays!




Girl Gang

Something I’ve been noticing recently: awesomely successful ladies supporting other awesomely successful ladies.


Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you know that Taylor Swift released her new album, 1989, yesterday (full disclosure: I listened, I loved).  And yes, there were copious amounts of adds on TV (I’m looking at you Target), and yes, there were reviews from every news outlet that ever was. But surprisingly, I heard about the album most on my Instagram and Twitter feeds. Lena Dunham, Lorde and Karlie Kloss were just a few of the fine ladies who took the time to share the love for their friend’s new album on social media.

And just last week, my feeds were filled with the likes of Mindy Kaling, Judy Bloome, Kat Dennings and more, celebrating the launch of Rookie Yearbook 3 by posting pictures of themselves with their copy. (And the week before that, it was for Lena Dunham’s book, Not That Kind Of Girl).

Thanks to the freedom and control that social media allows celebrities, this generation of women in the spotlight are doing things a little differently than their predecessors. Gone are the days where media outlets could construct narratives like Team Jolie Vs. Team Anniston. Instead, Lorde takes cooking classes with Taylor Swift, Lena Dunham visits Mindy Kaling on set, Tavi Gevinson and Kiernan Shipka get milkshakes together and Karlie Kloss brings cookies to everyone! Celebrities hanging out together isn’t exactly a new thing, but it’s this new breed of women who choose to share and support one and other that have us swooning.

Shine Theory says, “when you meet a woman who is intimidatingly witty, stylish, beautiful, and professionally accomplished, befriend her.  Surrounding yourself with the best people doesn’t make you look worse by comparison. It makes you better.” This is an ethos we can get behind. Instead of portraying women as cat-fight-ready divas who argue over everything from boyfriends to ‘Who Wore It Best’, this new wave of women is taking control by displaying a sense of community, friendship, generosity and support.

One of the goals of Girl Gift Gather is to change the media’s representation of female relationships. Contrary to what ‘The Real Housewives of Wherever’ would have you believe, all of my relationships with women are positive, strong and supportive. It’s a small world for female CEO’s, and it can be lonely at the top. The Lena Dunhams, Taylor Swifts and Tavi Gevinsons of the world are a breath of fresh air, because they make the effort to share the fact that successful, powerful women don’t have to threaten one and other. Instead, they can offer a very specific kind of support: the support of someone who understands what you’re going through, the support of someone who can identify with your experience, the support of someone who knows what it means to run a room and be the only woman in it. This kind of backing is absolutely necessary in order to sustain the growth of successful women. We each need to know that we’re not waging the battle alone and that when we get to the top, there will be a family of women there waiting (with a glass of wine!) to celebrate us, not to push us back down.

So here’s to the new Girl Gang. May we all channel our inner Swifty.

(image via http://instagram.com/taylorswift)





So, I know there’s been a bit of radio silence here at Violet Grows. Apologies, apologies. It’s all been a bit much recently. I launched a business (Girl Gift Gather do check it out – I write for our blog frequently), I picked up a few new clients, I left a long beloved job and panicked a lot over change and growth. I’m working on finding a way to get back to writing here more frequently.
For now, since it’s Mother’s Day, and I have possible the most beautiful mother in the world, I share her with you.

Because she’s awesome. And cool. And she makes a perfect cup of tea. And she draws a bath like no other. And no restaurant will make me feel as full or happy as her cooking. And she can make me smile with her silly jokes and weird ideas. And she taught me how to give great gifts. And she made me make my bed every morning. And she lets me borrow her clothes. (And her make-up.) And she introduced me to hot water bottles. And she buys me stuffed animals that are always a little broken because she feels bad for them. And she makes up words to songs. And she taught me the value of travel. And of letting go. And she lays on pebble covered beaches with me looking at sunny skies. And I love her.

Weekend Whimsy: Sundays

Some late whimsy but whimsy neverthless. A few reads and recipes from around the web to make your Sunday morning a little more delicious. I’ll be cozied up drinking tea and reading articles with Michael.


I want nothing more to walk into my kitchen this morning and find that some wonderful Sunday Morning Fairy has whipped up these homemade English Crumpets. If that doesn’t end up being the case, I’ll probably just bake them next Saturday afternoon.

Embrace your inner Stone Fox Hippie this morning and read Molly Guy’s interview on The Coveteur. It’s an oldie but a goodie. And now I have a new dream for the end of my wedding day – cake in bed followed by ribs at Five Leaves.

And whilst we’re embracing hippies, this NYMag article on the cult versus the culture of Yoga is quite lovely (and very correct).

I’m seriously considering following The Man Repeller’s advice and going on an iPhone cleanse – it sounds sort of magical. I’m one of those people who secretly loves when they lose their phone or it breaks because it means I’m unreachable and it’s not my fault. Is that super weird? Maybe.

And finally, some inspiration for next week — everything sounds better when Ira Glass says it.

Weekend Whimsy: Grey Skies

Seems it will be a pretty grey weekend in Brooklyn over the next few days. Perfect for roasting a chicken, cleaning the apartment and reading a few articles — maybe even writing one.

Looking for books to read this winter? Bustle has pulled together Hannah Horvath’s Reading List and Judy Blume and Lena Dunham curated a reading list for The Cut.

Darling have partnered with Soul Pancake to create the digital series That’s What She Said — their first video looks beautiful and touches on the always interesting concept of body image.

This easy face mask might be a nice addition to a lazy weekend. Plus, a winter skin saver!

Meryl Streep wins every time. Plus, I’m sort of obsessed with the idea that she and Emma Thompson are friends – throw in Diane Keaton and you have my dream dinner party.

Hope it’s a beautiful weekend folks!


Sugar and Spice

Thinks have been very healthy around here lately….


I’ve had a recurring allergy for a couple of years now and in an effort to clear it up and figure it out I began an Elimination Diet 10 days ago. No dairy, no gluten, no sugar, no soy, no corn, no caffeine, no nightshades, no citrus, no red meat, no eggs and no sugary fruits (read:bananas, dates, figs etc). That’s a lot of NOs for a foodie like me.

There is actually plenty left to eat: quinoa, brown rice, fish, chicken and a cornucopia of vegetables. That being said, a lot of my usual staples have been outlawed. Most preciously, my morning cup of tea. No caffeine equals no black tea (and even if I was allowed caffeine no dairy equals no milk which equals no way in my opinion).

So what’s it like? I think about food a lot more often. I read all of the labels on everything. I eat a boatload of avocados. I make more. I say make because I don’t think of these things as cooking per say, I made hummus last week and I’m making almond milk today. I eat out less (because it’s just too difficult). I have a greater awareness of everything that’s in my food. I only eat whole foods. I sleep better. I find fruit to be extraordinarily sweet. I’m more creative with my cooking. Snacking is more boring. Food is more like fuel. Chocolate is sorely missed.

What’s been most difficult for me has been the social, emotional connection I have to food. A cup of tea is a morning ritual. A square of chocolate is a treat on a rainy afternoon. A glass of Malbec is an indulgence on a Thursday night. A day sampling  coffees, pastries, lunch and cocktails in Brooklyn is a day enjoying some of my favorite things. I’m trying to find these values in my new healthy routine – a green juice is an energizing fix, a cup of warm almond milk with cinnamon is a weekend luxury, a bowl of berries is a sweet way to end a meal. 

I have 11 more days before I begin re-introducing food. But I think my perspective on grocery shopping and eating out will  be a little different from now on. This has made me realize how even a “healthy” person can be out of sync with all of the “extras” that are in their food. Sugar in your almond butter, corn preservatives in your organic almond milk, soy preservatives in your coconut milk. It pays to stay knowledgeable about  what you’re putting inside your body and what brands you can trust.

Consider me enlightened.


Weekend Whimsy: 2014

Here in New York it feels like the weekend started early — the snow is piled high, the subways are slow and the day is perfect for bundling up and embarking on a chilly walk through slippery streets.

A round up for a snowy start to the year…

Man Repeller’s Horoscope summary for 2014 — the perfect breakdown for the lazy astrologist.

I’m headed to the Russian and Turkish Baths tomorrow. It’s the only way to get warm in this kind of weather!

And then to Han Dynasty for Dan Dan Noodles and other spicy things. The theory is, if I eat spicy enough food it’ll increase my internal body temp? This might be a stretch, but it’s really cold out there guys!

If you have some time this weekend and you want to feel embarrassed by how little you’ve accomplished — Tavi Gevinson and Lorde did a great interview in Rookie. It’s an inspiring, insightful discussion about creativity, feminism and the music industry (and they’re both 17 so, yeah).

Happy first weekend of 2014! May you have snowball flights and hot chocolates galore.

P.S. A new year a new look? Let me know your thoughts on the new aesthetic…







Weekend Whimsy

What this weekend is all about for me: Getting out of bed early. Drinking tea and reading blogs. A long walk with my best friend. Working on creative projects. A few beers to celebrate a friend’s birthday. Roasting parsnips. Tea and stories with old friends. And channeling Jane Birkin.


Here’s a few sweet links for this unseasonable warm weekend, have a good one!

Reformation’s collaboration with Baron Van Fancy has resulted in the coolest blouses and maybe the most apropos sweater ever designed: Mercury was indeed in retrograde just last week!

This Diner Mug from Darling Magazine is the perfect stocking stuffer (and addition to my ever growing mug collection).

The newest collection of Nora Ephron works, Most of Nora Ephron, is just the thing to get me through all of the holiday travel waiting around.

Even though I live in Williamsburg, I’m finding all of my favorite coffee shops and cafes in the West Village these days…Mojo Coffee and Why Not Coffee, all day and all night.